If you knew what to do here, it sure would make things easier, wouldn’t it? If you knew how to raise her, how to love him, how to work through this, and how to handle that … but you feel like you don’t know. You don’t know for sure what to do. You don’t know how to be the mom she needs. You don’t know how to be the wife he needs. You don’t know how to be their daughter, their teacher, their boss.
What if I could tell you exactly how to do this right? What if I could guide you to the answers you seek and show you exactly how to tap into the things you don’t know?
Of course you know I’m going to tell you to pray. Pray about it. It seems like a cheap answer, so I will give you something of greater value. I’m going to show you exactly what to pray for. A prayer God will honor. A prayer God will answer immediately. A prayer that guarantees you will be walking in divine answers by the end of this day. That’s a bold claim … I can back it up.
If you’re ready to pray a powerful prayer that changes any circumstance and applies to every situation, listen up.
This prayer is given to us by Solomon. King Solomon was known as the wisest man to ever live. I Kings 4: 29-30 “God gave Solomon very great wisdom and understanding, and knowledge as vast as the sands of the seashore. In fact, his wisdom exceeded that of all the wise men. He was wiser than anyone else.”
But did you know Solomon wasn’t born with this wisdom. He wasn’t always the wisest man to ever live. His wisdom came as a result of a prayer. A prayer that changed everything for Solomon. We find his prayer in the previous chapter.
I Kings 3: 5-11 “That night the Lord appeared to Solomon in a dream, and God said, “What do you want? Ask, and I will give it to you!”
Solomon replied, “Now, O Lord my God, you have made me king, but I am like a little child who doesn’t know his way around. And here I am in the midst of your own chosen people, a nation so great and numerous they cannot be counted! Give me an understanding heart so that I can govern your people well and know the difference between right and wrong.”
The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for wisdom. So God replied, “Because you have asked for wisdom in governing my people with justice and have not asked for a long life or wealth or the death of your enemies— I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! And I will also give you what you did not ask for—riches and fame! No other king in all the world will be compared to you for the rest of your life! And if you follow me and obey my decrees and my commands as your father, David, did, I will give you a long life.”
This is the story of how Solomon became the wisest man to ever live. He asked God for wisdom. And God is pleased when we ask for wisdom. When we ask for an understanding heart to know right from wrong, God answers in big ways.
If God came to you, as he did Solomon, and he said to you, “What do you want? Ask and I will give it to you.” What would you ask for? Really, think about it. Right here in your current circumstances. In this unknown. In this mess and stress. What would you ask for?
Wouldn’t we ask for God to make your husband change? Wouldn’t we ask for God to stop your child in their tracks and make them turn back? Wouldn’t we ask for him to come in and fix this? Change this? Wouldn’t we ask for a breakthrough? Wouldn’t we ask for a total turn around? Wouldn’t we ask for undeniable favor in these circumstances? Wouldn’t we ask for open doors and flashing signs to show us the right way?
I would. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with those prayers. God says PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING. You can talk to him about all of this. But what if we first made a different request. What if first we asked God to give us wisdom.
Lord, show me how to be the wife he needs right now. Lord, help me to be the mom who can love her through this without wavering. Lord, reveal to me what is right and what is wrong. Father, give me wisdom here to do this right.
And to that, God is pleased, and he says, “Because you have asked for wisdom, I will give you all you have asked for. But wait, I will also give you what you did not ask for.”
Imagine the difference it would make if you asked for wisdom the next time someone starts acting like a total jackwagon towards you. What if God could show you that hurt people hurt people, and really that person is just hurting. Instead of being angry and reacting, you could see their hurt and speak healing to them. Talk about totally changing a situation!
Lord, we need wisdom.
What if we could see why our children act the way they’re acting? What if we could understand why this is happening? What if we could see a bigger picture than the one we’ve always seen before? What if instead of getting butt hurt and lashing out, we could see this really isn’t about us at all, and we could be used as a vessel to just love them?
What if we were supernaturally directed to boldly say yes at exactly the right time, and confidently say no when it’s not? And what if we didn’t have to beat ourselves up, second-guessing every decision we make? What if we could know that we know, that we know, that we know? What if we can show up knowing we’re perfectly equipped for everything life brings our way today?
You can be the wife he needs right now. You can be the mom your family needs right now. You can be that teacher. That nurse. That co-worker. That daughter. That friend. That leader.
It’s one prayer away … Lord, I don’t know what I’m doing. Give me wisdom to do this right.
What if God is asking you exactly what he asked Solomon, “What do you want? Ask me and I will give it to you.” And what if all you really ever need is wisdom. Wisdom to make the right choices. Wisdom to show up as who God needs you to be. Wisdom to shut your mouth. Wisdom to speak up. Wisdom to get it right. Wisdom to know God’s unstoppable power is flowing through you and you’ve been brought here for an eternal purpose, and now isn’t the time to back down. Now is the time to rise up!
Personally I will tell you my whole world shifted when I simply started asking God to show me the way. When I began seeking him for guidance, I was guided to bigger and better things than I could have ever imagined. When I began asking God for the right topics, the right words, the right scriptures, the right stories, and the right energy, I was able to start bringing devotionals that changed lives. I didn’t ask for fame. I didn’t ask for the #1 devotional podcast. I didn’t ask for listeners. I simply asked God to guide me in what to do and what to say and give me his words.
And it works in every conversation I’m in. Before I speak on a stage, or before I meet someone for a cup of coffee, I ask God to use me as his vessel and give me a heart of understanding so I can be who God needs me to be to them.
Who does God need you to be today?
What does he want to do through you?
Where would he have you to go and what would he have you to do?
What does he want you to say?
What does he want you to not say?
Where does he just want you to show up today?
If you will ask him, he will be pleased with your request and he will undoubtedly guide you with wisdom.
I remember a specific heated conversation I had with my husband in the car one time. He was wrong and I was right, obviously. But instead of reacting, I asked God to give me wisdom and help me to be the wife my husband needed at that moment. It was if the Lord’s hand was over my mouth and wouldn’t let me say a word. Instead he prompted me to reach over and grab my husband’s hand and just be silent.
Do you feel God prompting you right now to ask him for wisdom in a specific relationship or situation? Won’t you do it?
Lord, give us a heart of understanding and help us to know right from wrong. Guide us in what we should say, and shouldn’t say today. Lead our actions, and help us to see when we shouldn’t act at all. We ask for your wisdom, and we trust your Spirit will prompt us in this.
And what is God’s reply? “Because you have asked for wisdom — I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart! And I will also give you what you did not ask for!”