How good does your life look on the outside, and how increasingly empty is it feeling on the inside?
Do you feel stagnant in life, having lost your passion and energy?
Are you an all-or-nothing type of person, and lately it’s been more nothing?
Have you been so busy just living that you’ve forgotten to be ALIVE?
Have the tasks and chores and the things on your to-do-list overshadowed the sheer fact that you woke up to the greatest gift today? The gift of a new day of life.

So the challenge is to find balance. To be living and be fully ALIVE. To be productive while being grateful. To care as much about your zest for life as the appearance of your life.

It’s easy to lose our balance, in fact I would venture to say it’s darn hard to maintain our balance. When life is out of balance, we quickly experience burn out. Hey sister, if you can’t find joy on the journey to your goals, you’ll likely never make it. And if you do, you’re going to be miserable and how long will you be able to force yourself to continue on in misery?

I don’t know about you, but I’m not willing to sacrifice my happiness for a goal weight. I’m not willing to be miserable for the next 11 months to achieve anything. I’m not willing to skip out on living now to become someone I think I want to be next.

And here’s the great news … we don’t have to! We can achieve our goals, we can become more than we ever imagined, we can walk in the fullness of life like never before, and we can do it all without misery.

What’s the secret?


Most of us are either too focused on work and forget the play, or we’re all about the play and the work doesn’t get done. Which one are you?

Do you recognize how this imbalance is not serving you? Do you agree that becoming your best will require both work and fun? What good are the size 8 jeans, the $20,000 in savings, and the clean house if you forget to be ALIVE? You can’t just go through the motions here. You gotta throw your whole body into this thing.

Many of us are walking around feeling stagnant. Our lives on the outside are beautiful, picture perfect, you may even have all the things you once prayed for – but inside we’ve lost our passion and energy for more. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had women come to me and say, “my life is really good, I just can’t figure out why I’m still not happy.”

For my girls here at the retreat with me, life has been ridiculously good together the past 5 days, right? We’ve lived big, we’ve created memories that will last a lifetime. We’ve done things we’ve never done before. We’ve breathed in life. We’ve laughed and cried and had tremendous breakthroughs. And today, you go home. You go home to a home that hasn’t changed. You go home to a family that is still the same. This energy and zest you have within you today will be met with a reality threatening to suck the life out of you. Plus you carry home a bag full of dirty clothes, no chef to cook for you, and quite possibly crappy weather.

How will you protect this feeling you have inside right now when it comes crashing into your real life that hasn’t experienced the same?

For everyone that’s at home, everyone that hasn’t had an adventure in a long time, everyone that wakes up to the same boring reality on a merry go round that lost it’s merry a long time ago, let me say this … it doesn’t have to be this way. If life is boring, you’ve just gotten busy living and forgotten to be ALIVE.

Maybe on the outside things look good, but on the inside, are you losing your passion and energy?

This is how the enemy often attacks us. He allows things to look good on the outside so you will silently struggle alone. Perhaps even worse than having nothing is having most everything, and still feeling empty. Guilt and shame set up shop inside and convince you something is deeply wrong with you in the middle of a life that looks so darn good on the outside.

No one knows to reach out to you because you look like you’ve got it all together. All while the enemy is working away at you on the inside, attacking your passion and zest for life. Teasing you with the easy way out. Tempting you with checking out of the game and settling for watching everyone else, convinced you’re just not good enough. And so the game goes on and on, he wins and you lose, and your potential goes untapped. Life may look good on the outside, but on the inside, this isn’t working.

And so the very thing you were created to do in this world goes undone. The impact only you can make sits on a shelf and your worth goes down the drain. The blessings destined for you become burdens, and you just can’t figure out why you’re not happy.

Jesus warns us in John 10:10 that this enemy of ours came to kill, steal and destroy, and you must understand he will attack you on the inside just as much, if not more, than on the outside. He will take all that is good, and make it overwhelming. He will take all that is a gift and make it a task you just have to get done. He will create imbalance so you’re too exhausted to enjoy the very thing you once prayed for.

So my question to you today is, do you see where the enemy has been working on you? Working to keep you unbalanced? Working to steal your passion and energy? Working to make you dread your reality? Working to turn your blessings into burdens? Working to just keep you bored and unaware of the gift of life?

Job 33:4 tells us “The Spirit of God has made me, And the breath of the Almighty gives me life.”

The spirit of God made you, my friend. It is the breath of the Almighty that gives you life. His breath gives you life. Have you been breathing shallow lately? Going through the motions, feeling drained? Skimming? Staying surface level in your own life and rarely ever digging deep? I know exactly what we need … we need the one who gives us life to breathe life back into us! We need the breath of the Almighty to do some resuscitation in our lives and bring us back in balance.

Won’t you ask God to breath life back into you? Won’t you ask him to bring back your passion and energy? Won’t you ask him to open your eyes to the beauty of life so that you may soak it in fully today?

Take a big deep breath with me right now. Mouth closed as you breath in through your nose, then release through your mouth. Again.

Almighty, breath life into us.

Do you realize the very air you breathe is the breath of God? He wants to fill you up. He wants to help you create balance in your life.

Your goals are fantastic. God is excited about your goals. Yes, go for it. But don’t forget to live and enjoy this gift.

God, help us to create and maintain balance in our lives.

No more stagnant days. No more walking around in a life that looks good on the outside but feels so empty on the inside. No more allowing the enemy to poke around in your blessings. This is your life, and it will be balanced by the Almighty.

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