When it’s hard to love yourself, you’ve believed a lie. When you don’t want to look at yourself in the mirror, you’ve believed a lie. When you dismiss yourself from goodness, you’ve believed a lie. When you play little, you’ve believed a lie. When you feel hopeless, you’ve believed a lie.

Your heart has believed a series of lies, and from that confused and twisted heart has come a broken confidence, a troubled mind, a fearful future, and a little life.

The source of these lies is not your just negative tendencies. It’s not just toxic people in your life. The source of the lies you’ve let your heart believe is the father of lies himself. It is the enemy of your soul. The one hellbent on destroying every ounce of goodness in your life, and stealing your faith in the One who created you.

Jesus says in John 8:44 (MSG): “He (Satan) was a killer from the very start. He couldn’t stand the truth because there wasn’t a shred of truth in him. When the Liar speaks, he makes it up out of his lying nature and fills the world with lies.”

He has filled the world with his lies. Lies that God doesn’t care. Lies that God isn’t able. Lies that there’s nothing beyond this life. Lies that none of this even matters. Lies that people are bad and they’re only getting worse.


Now, has he filled YOUR world with his lies? Lies personally directed towards you, adopted by your heart as a truth. Lies that say you don’t matter. Lies that say God doesn’t care about you. Lies that say you can never change. Lies that say you’re too late for God’s good plans, you’ve already screwed that up. Lies that say it will be too hard for you. Lies that say you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, and you’re broken. Lies that say this is all there is for you, and nothing more.

Oh, what has he done to our hearts, and what nonsense have our hearts convinced our minds of?

This week I have a challenge for the 542 women I currently mentor. It’s a challenge that literally requires less than 30 seconds per day, yet it’s a tremendous battle for many. It requires no physical effort, no change of habit, not even a denial of a craving. Yet, I would guess less than 25% of my girls have been able to talk themselves into this specific challenge.

The challenge is to stand in front of the mirror daily, look themselves in the eye and read these words:

God, you made me, and you do wonderful work.
Your wonderful work in me is not done yet.
I will just keep getting better.

Could you do it?
Would you do it?
Will you do it?

Why is this so hard for us to accept that God’s work in us is wonderful? Why can we look at a slimy octopus with purple skin and 8 legs covered in suction cups and declare it is magnificently wonderful, and we can’t look at ourselves and declare the same? Why do we see the miracle in someone else’s uniqueness, yet hate our own? What gives us the right to be so critical of a creation that isn’t even our own?



Psalm 139: 13-14 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

If you know that God’s works are wonderful, and you are a result of God’s work, then Sis, that means you are wonderful!

But you don’t feel wonderful, do you? You don’t see yourself as wonderful, do you? You don’t consider yourself wonderful, do you?

And why is that exactly? Let me tell you why. Your difficultly to accept and believe that you are wonderful is the direct result of the lies you’ve allowed your heart to believe. Lies from the Father of lies. Lies from THE Liar (capital L). Lies you’ve been hearing most every day of your life so you’ve allowed it to become your soundtrack.

What does your soundtrack say? You know the perpetual loop of talk streaming from your heart to your head, and back from your head to your heart.

Does it say you’re not good enough?
Does it say there’s something wrong with you?
Does it say you don’t deserve happiness?
Does it say you’re broken and can’t be fixed?
Does it say you’re not loved?
Does it say you will never change?
Does it say your best days are over?

Is that your soundtrack? Is that what your heart tells your head when you look in the mirror? Is that what your head confirms with your heart? Oh honey, these are the lies you’ve let your heart believe.

Lord, please reveal every lie the enemy has planted in our hearts. Please show us how those seeds have grown from our hearts and taken over our minds, creating negative thoughts, worries and stress. And Lord, please show us how to rip that crap out of our lives!

God’s work is wonderful, and it is his work that made you. That’s truth. YOU ARE WONDERFUL, not because of your past, not because of anything you could possibly do in your future, simply because of how you were created. But, recognize God doesn’t stop there. He’s not finished with you yet.

Philippians 1:6 “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Because of the good work God continues to do in you, you’re just getting better! You’re not confined to the choices you used to make. You’re not stuck in the life you used to live. God has a good work going on inside of you and he’s still working!

How about you partner with him in that truth? Delete the soundtrack of lies that has been playing in your heart and flooding your mind, and replace it with nothing but truth.

Honey, the truth is, God made you, and he does wonderful work. His wonderful work in you is not done yet. When you partner with him and let him change the soundtrack of your heart, you start hearing a different voice. Your thoughts change. Your confidence grows. Your actions are different. You begin to walk in alignment with the good plans the maker of your soul has for your life.

And honey, you keep that up, and you will soon be able to look in the mirror and declare without a single hesitation:

God, you made me, and your work is wonderful!
Your wonderful work in my life is not done yet.
I will just keep getting better.

That is the truth.

Let the truth rip up the lies your heart has believed. Let the truth saturate your mind and change your soundtrack. Let the truth shine through your eyes so your reflection in the mirror represents a girl God is doing a wonderful work in today!

I have the perfect song for you you. A song you should play while looking in the mirror. “Look What You’ve Done” by Tasha Layton.

The lies I believed
They got some roots that run deep
I let ’em take a hold of my life
I let ’em take control of my life
… Standing in Your presence, Lord
I can feel You diggin’ all the roots up
I feel Ya healin’ all my wounds up
All I can say is hallelujah
… Look what You’ve done
Look what You’ve done in me
You spoke Your truth into the lies I let my heart believe
Look at me now
Look how You made me new
The enemy did everything that he could do
Oh, but look what You’ve done
What does God want to do in your life? He wants to dig up every lie that has taken root in your heart. He wants to heal every wound, and he wants to make you new with a new soundtrack that confirms every day of your life that you are his wonderful work and he just keeps making you better!

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