My facebook feed is currently flooded with those priceless back to school photos. Just yesterday I saw Breckyn’s first day of kindergarten and Kiley’s first day of college. And while it seems a lifetime will separate those two photos, us older moms know just how fast it all goes. We only have these kids home with us for a short time, then they’re gone.

The year will come when there are no back to school shoes to buy. No school supplies to stress over. No first day send offs. And please, listen to me … that’s the goal. The goal is to raise those babies and watch them fly right out of the nest. The goal isn’t to keep them home forever. Mama, you’ve got to let them go. This is success.

All too often I hear from mom’s who are struggling to let their grown man child be a man. They’re holding on to this fully capable young woman as if she’s still a little girl who needs her pigtails tightened. You’re only holding them back! They aren’t mean to live with you forever, that’s why battles ensue when they become teenagers. This is them separating from your home. This is natural.

Proverbs 22:6 MSG, “Point your kids in the right direction – when they’re old they won’t be lost.” But guess what, there will likely be some stupid wandering years before they’re old.

You have a job here. Your job is to point them in the right direction. You can’t force them, and you can’t do it for them. And you can’t hold on so tightly to them that they can’t take a step without you.

Mama, if you’re in the “wandering years” with your child, please know this:

  1. You’re not alone.
  2. This is somewhat normal.
  3. This won’t last forever.

And I believe there are two things you absolutely must do.

  1. Let life be their teacher.
  2. Pray circles around them.

I’ve raised three kids, somewhat successfully. I was not perfect, and neither were they. Their wandering years lasted longer than I had wished and sometimes went a lot further off track than I ever imagined. BUT GOD!

Let me tell you, our God is faithful and he loves our kids even more than us. God is big enough to point and not force. Guide and not steer. And he is so patient through those wandering years because he already knows they will come back. And God lets life touch them. God doesn’t run in and rescue every time and make all the consequences go away. But he never leaves. He never turns away. He is always there.

And this is our guide to parenting.

We don’t make consequences go away. We don’t shield them from life. We don’t fix it for them, just as God doesn’t fix it all for us. We are simply present. We are faithful. We listen. We offer strength. We offer guidance. We are steady.

And if you really want to help your child, you pray!

James 5:16, “The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” And before you disqualify yourself thinking you could never be a righteous person, remember it is your belief and trust in Jesus that makes you righteous, not your works. As a believer, you are that righteous person, and your prayers have great power to produce wonderful results.

Don’t you want wonderful results in the life of your child? Of course you do. Then Mama, earnestly pray for them! It is your “earnest” prayer that has great power and produces these wonderful results. What is an earnest prayer? Simply persistent. Again, and again. Daily. Continual. Over and over. You just keep bringing your child to the throne of the Almighty.

God entrusted me with the lives of 3 human beings and my greatest role is to continually talk to God about them. If you’re a Mama, understand that’s your greatest role as well. It’s the most powerful thing you could ever do. Your yelling doesn’t produce these wonderful results. Your nagging doesn’t either. Nope, your worry isn’t doing it. But your prayer … whew girl, if you only understood the power of your prayers over them.

And now, the beginning of a new school year, is the perfect time to begin praying circles around them.

Praying circles isn’t a new age thing. This is over 3000 years old. We learn to pray circles in the story of Jericho. Jericho was a city fully surrounded by an impenetrable wall. The wall was so tall, there wasn’t anything going over it. The wall was so thick, there wasn’t anything going through it. Jericho was impossible to overtake. But remember, nothing is impossible with God! So, God gave Joshua marching orders. These marching orders were a prayer circle.

Joshua 6: 2-5, “Then the Lord said to Joshua, “See, I have delivered Jericho into your hands, along with its king and its fighting men. March around the city once with all the armed men. Do this for six days. Have seven priests carry trumpets of rams’ horns in front of the ark. On the seventh day, march around the city seven times, with the priests blowing the trumpets. When you hear them sound a long blast on the trumpets, have the whole army give a loud shout; then the wall of the city will collapse and the army will go up, everyone straight in.”

And so it happened exactly as God had instructed. They circled the walls. Marching should have had no power. Blowing trumpets should have had no power. But, this was a prayerful act of obedience, and prayer HAS ALL THE POWER! Those walls came down.

Mark Batterson’s book, “The Circle Maker” changed the way I pray. When I pray over you, I envision a circle around you. When possible, I pray a physical circle around whatever I’m praying over. This is how walls fall. This is how change happens that has never happened before. This is how breakthroughs come. You circle it.

So, if you have a child going back to school, you have marching orders. Make your prayer circle. Circle around that school in prayer. And no, you don’t need a big group of people to do that. It would be great if you did, but don’t let that stop you. You can make the circle on your own … start marching and keep praying.

Our schools may have kicked God out, but we have the power to invite his presence back. USE YOUR POWER, MAMA!

Today, your Jericho is the school where your children will spend the majority of their waking hours. The school where they will be surrounded by others. The school where teachers will speak into their lives. The school where coaches will leave their mark. Pray circles around that Jericho. Pray bold, specific prayers to a Mighty God who hears, cares and moves.

Let this be where they wander in and find God to be faithful. Let this be where they receive their breakthrough. Let this be where they dare to believe just how special they are. Let this be where future plans begin to unfold perfectly. Let this be where God speaks to them. Let this be where God changes everything!

Circle that school. March in prayer. Pray over their teachers, their coaches, and their classmates. There are battles within those walls you cannot imagine. There are hardships and struggles hiding in dark corners. There are lives that have never ever been prayed over a single time. BUT YOUR PRAYER CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

I don’t have any kids in school, but I’ve been prompted to go pray a circle around a local school any way. Why? Because my prayer has great power and produces wonderful results, and someone in that school needs it! Someone has no one else to pray a circle around them. There are walls that need to come down. There are strongholds that need to be broken. And I have my marching orders.

So do you. Let’s get to marching our circles and praying our prayers.

(And if your local school is fenced off and you can’t get on the grounds, then pray your circles on the sidewalks! It will be a longer walk, a bigger circle, and a powerful prayer! Don’t let excuses get in the way of your circle!)

Have you prayed a circle around your home? Around your job? You don’t have to be weird about it. Just take a little walk, and start talking to God.

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