Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to get you or choose you. You can’t make everybody happy, girl, you’re not a taco! So, how do you continue to walk boldly in your purpose when others aren’t walking with you? How do you confidently show up as your authentic self when some simply don’t seem to like you? How can you continue to find happiness even when you know you’re not making everybody happy?

You didn’t get chosen for the job. The answer was no. The door was closed. He left. She moved on. They said some ugly stuff about you. Now, how do you deal with that?

Let me tell you how the enemy of your soul wants you to deal with that. He wants you to wallow in self pity and wonder what’s wrong with you. He wants you to take everything personal and be crushed. He wants you to grow callouses on your heart to keep others out. He wants you to be absolutely convinced you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, and you should pull back and hide. But honey, the devil is a liar. Those are all straight up lies from hell and taunting invitations to get you stuck in that pit.

You are not immune from the rejection of people, no matter how good you are. They say you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there’s still somebody who just hates peaches. Before you walk through another day all butt hurt that they didn’t choose you or that someone doesn’t like you, remember this … Some people didn’t like Jesus! Some people literally sat in his presence, heard his life changing teachings in person, and walked away saying he was a fake. They didn’t like the stories he told or the way he told them. But, Jesus was not distracted by their dislike. And you can’t be either!

While Jesus walked this Earth, he told stories. Every lesson he taught was taught in the form of a story. A story of a man building a house on the sand verses building on a rock, then a storm comes. A story of patching an old garment with new cloth. Stories of sheep and wolves,stories of birds and trees and fruit. A story of a farmer with seed. Story after story. Jesus told stories about everything. But not everyone like Jesus’ stories. Not everyone understood them. Some walked away saying he was crazy.

But, did this stop Jesus? No, here’s his reply to the ridicule. Matthew 13: 16-17, “Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear. For truly I tell you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see but did not see it, and hear what you hear but did not hear it.” He didn’t go into a tail spin of oh my gosh, they don’t like me, what if I’m not good enough. He didn’t get insulted and bite back. He simply accepted, when you’re ready I’m here for you. But if you’re not, I’m going to keep going.

Jesus was perfection. Everything he said was true. Every story he told was divine. Yet, not everyone like him, agreed with him, or got it. And get this … Jesus shows us how to get over that!

Yes, Sister, it’s time to get over not being chosen. It’s time to get over not being everyone’s favorite. It’s time to move on from trying to convince everyone. Let it be. They’re not ready. God never gave you the job of being the convincer of people. Stop trying to convince people of you, who you are, what you believe, what you’re doing, or where you’re going. Trying to convince the doubters, the nay sayers, and the haters is exhausting. THEY’RE NOT READY!

Jesus knew those who ridiculed his teaching and his stories simply weren’t ready. Matthew 13: 11-12 MSG, “You’ve been given insight into God’s kingdom. You know how it works. Not everybody has this gift, this insight; it hasn’t been given to them. Whenever someone has a ready heart for this, the insights and understandings flow freely. But if there is no readiness, any trace of receptivity soon disappears. That’s why I tell stories: to create readiness, to nudge the people toward a welcome awakening. In their present state they can stare till doomsday and not see it, listen till they’re blue in the face and not get it.”

Jesus is saying, “they reject me, but it’s not about me, it’s about them. They’re not ready for me.”

Woah … who is that for?

Sis, this isn’t about you. This is about them. They’re not ready for you. You keep being the best you you can be. You keep showing up. You keep being faithful. You keep responding to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and leave the results up to God. God does the convincing, NOT YOU.

What’s God doing in these people? He’s creating a spirit of readiness. He’s nudging people to wake them up. Right now, they simply don’t get it. But remember, their not getting it has nothing to do with you. Their heart isn’t open yet. They can’t see what you see. They don’t understand what you understand. They aren’t receptive right now because they’re not ready.

God does the nudging to create readiness … NOT YOU! Stop trying to force your way in. Stop trying to win everyone over. And for heaven’s sake, stop trying to contort yourself into something different just to get approval. Those of us who are people pleasers can get so totally wrapped up in pleasing everyone that one day we wake up and don’t even recognize ourselves in the mirror any more. We’ve become someone we’re not all because we’re trying to convince someone of something who isn’t ready to be convinced.

The convincing isn’t up to me. What is up to me is to show up as who God is creating me to be. It is up to me to follow God’s promptings. It is up to me to recognize the lies of the enemy and resist them. It is up to me to stand strong with the power God has given me. It is up to me to be faithful, even when it hurts and even when it’s hard.

So, this is for the girl who has been rejected. This is for the girl who feels alone. This is for the girl who got left out. This is for the girl who feels misunderstood. This is for the girl who doesn’t fit in. Jesus says, “My girl, they just don’t see it yet. They don’t get you yet. But I am creating a readiness within them. I am nudging them toward an awakening. You keep being who I created you to be and one day they will see you. Until then, know that I see you, I choose you, and I love you wildly!”

Yes, Jesus sees you. He gets you. He chooses you. He adores you. He relentlessly pursues you. And he truly does love you wildly.

Are you ready to receive that?

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